Since my journey began, I’ve learned that cancer may make you feel like you’ve lost control of your life. And often, after we receive the news, it can be days before we can see a doctor to learn all the details of our cancer. Our minds are racing during this unnerving wait time. We can feel scared, frustrated, and anxious because we don’t know much now.
When I was first diagnosed, before I saw the doctor to know all the details, I had a family meeting and told them what I knew at that point. Looking back now, I wish I had waited. Talking to them without having all the details was more nerve-racking because it increased the fear and anxiety of the unknown.
After my first appointment, I was more aware of my situation. I felt more in control because I was armed with information and a plan to improve my life, which is very important for someone managing breast cancer.
Helpful ideas when talking to others could include:
· Being open-minded (not everyone knows what to say or how to respond)
· Personal feeling (it’s a personal choice to discuss; if you’re not ready, it’s okay)
· Calm setting (distractions can cause tension of sent and received information)
The takeaway is that it is always a personal choice of how and who we tell, if at all. Having more information and knowledge of the details first could make it easier to discuss and break the news to others.
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